we've got a sick puppy. His attitude is that he is on his meds, therefore he is justified because he is now "normal". I want to talk openly about the realities of living with and trying to support someone who is mentally ill, and what I’ve learned about mental health and stigma over the years. Building and maintaining your marriage when your spouse has bipolar can be challenging. I read your initial posting and what I see is that you are young, he is younger, he came into the marriage riddled with issues, and frankly I am sure you did to. Significant Others, Family & Friends Forum, http://psychcentral.com/lib/symptoms-of ... y/00011992. did u feel like just running away. With regard to the former, if he/she was asymptomatic prior to exposure to the bad environment, it is possible that the two could be correlated. You said that your Husband finally got help and a diagnosis several years ago. You then married quick and added to the mix by the pregnancy. i am a full-time student who & works full time . If you are affected by any of the issues raised you can seek help via our resources pages. If he can get in a better headspace then perhaps he may realise what he is doing to you and the kids. I don't want to live with a person who is not responsible fully for their own problems. I know how exhausting it is to have bipolar but I also know how confusing and exasperating it is living with some one with bipolar or another mental illness. As someone living with a significant other with bipolar disorder, not only is it a challenge for the individual, but also for their family, friends and caregivers. I don't feel it is his fault. I really don't know what to do and i hope successful spouses can come help me. bphope.com is an online community for people living with bipolar disorder, as well as their friends and families, and for anyone seeking support. The man I married I only live with part time, and I miss him terribly. I am also NOT young like you. He always does it like he is blaming me for something, or my mom, or our childcare giver and it is somehow my fault if once in a while (twice a month type of thing) they are served fast food or Mac & Cheese for dinner (with vegetables I might add). I have never denied him the right to his feelings - however that perhaps the feelings feel bigger to him because of the BP and therefore he needs to be responsible when he overreacts (like this) - that's all. My husband is also Bipolar. Gazette Staff. Do you have any interest? For the first time we were away from all of the issues which had previously caused us problems. Sometimes I feel so overwhelmed trying to keep on top of thigs at the house and look pout for him too. I think it would be helpful if it was also someone who had a similar level of the BP that they are dealing with. And while I say that, I completely accept that as a gross generalization and that real people are exceptions all the time. i am so scared , i dont know how to handle his shopping spree . i am sure he has bipolar . Bipolar disorder is tough to deal with no matter how you look at it, but we wanted to talk to our mental health community about what they consider to be the “worst” symptoms they face and never speak about openly. i am married for 6 yrs now . It was there during an inpatient stay that she was diagnosed with Bipolar I and Complex PTST (previous abusive husband). Take care and let me know how you are doing because I care. My husband has been on medication now and out of the hospital for a year and a half and I moved to our capital city to support him and for him to continue to get the help he needs. It is 11:00am, and he has yet to speak to me yet (he works out of his office from home). He just seems lazy, not motivated to do anything that has to do with the day to day living of our life. Hi to everyone here. It’s possible to have a healthy, happy relationship with someone living with bipolar disorder. But for the moment, I choose to continue to stay, with hope that he will get more control and responsible over this, for my kids, because I feel a responsiblility to do so and I am honoring our vows. I don't want my daughter to think this is how she should be treated, or my son's to learn this is how to treat thier spouses (like I think he learned from his dad I'm sure). Living with someone who suffers from bipolar disorder presents a set of problems all its own. I find, even with my own wonderful spouse, that he has a harder time even admitting something medical or emotional is bothering him, let alone seeking treatment for it or continuing treatment for it. But I do, and I, by having chosen to have them, have a responsibility to do EVERYTHING I can to keep all my kids family together. In terms of the Bipolar he is on an antidepressant, mood stabiliser and antipsychotics but it has actually taken a lot longer than I thought it would to get the antipsychotic right. Because of that, she was dealing with so much more than I do. In retrospect, many of his problems pre-date our 20 … so he had a hugeeeeeeee amount of student loans . My life living with bipolar I started on cold November night. Hear our revealing conversation about how she nearly destroyed her family and read an excerpt from her memoir. Does that make sense? thanks for all the help and advice . Well, it was like switching a light on in our lives, we now had a name and condition for why my husand and had felt these massive highs and lows since his early teens and the fact that he never felt okay in the world. You wish it didn't have to spill out on them, but you appreciate the patience it takes on thier part. he even took off with the car to another state without letting me know . With a rational balanced individual it would not have. how did you all manage . So this converstaion turned into the results I started with. Do we fight the good fight? All are affected and it is nobody's fault. and i hope that you two can help each other out and i know that there's another spouse new to the site floating around here too. He tried to choke/strangle me in February last year when i tried to get him out of bed. I hope you all are seeing a counselor . “I had a concussion that kicked my bipolar II into high gear, and I had actual rage episodes. This forum is a safe, anonymous environment for people with bipolar disorder to freely discuss their struggles and symptoms. Let me back up and let's start again, you haven't done anything wrong here. We have been together for 21 years now since I was 17 years old. Don't do it. he does not work , he is unable to keep any job. LAKE GENEVA -- Maria Ruby was a lot like other kids when she was growing up. I have just found this forum and was really interested to read others stories, issues and problems. Your behavior as a parent, husband wife or sibling is not responsible for their bipolar disease. He isnt managing his bipolar well and its really taken a toll on our marriage and life. We have three beautiful children. i totaly understand everything you have said, and agree that it is very frustrating for you, and all the spouses of bipolar. I stayed on the phone with her for 12 hours as she made the trip back to home. As he so frequently points out, HE is not bipolar. He also suffers from rapid cycling which means he can have many highs and lows throughout the year which makes things very hard to manage sometimes, even now when we have more understanding of the illness. I am certainly not looking to bust up the family over it. it can be better and worse but not cured if i'm not mistaken. I do find it hard to have a converstaion in this manner. Having a spouse with bipolar can be challenging. You look for meaning and depth in everything. I really do appreciate your, when i over react, which is often, if i dont catch it during the moment and realize later then i do apologize for it and admit. For example he has periods when he can sleep for 18 hours a day at times (in depression) and then go to the other extreme where he sleeps for about, I often feel very guilty (guilt is one of my specialties) about, Hi Honey Bee, thank you for writing back. i feel i should carry on . It is not your fault, your spouse's or your children's fault. deleted_user 10/04/2009 Recently a question I have asked myself, even though I believe there was already some depression in my family and some in me that has felt like it comes and goes(but not regularly), and not bp by any means. However, he has only been 'diagnosed' as bipolar type 1 2 years ago now. now i am financially vey unstable . Manic Depressive if you will: an illness that has invaded my life. i love him very much . It is not a support group for friends and family of bipolar disorder. I will not deny the fact that this scares me and make me wonder if anything bad could ever come of this. I need support via an e-mail buddy who is in a similar situation striving for success in their relationship too, or advise from those who have been there and succeeded in resolving or finding solutions. 5 years ago. anyways here my story. For these reasons, optimal treatment consists of a combination of medication, therapy, and spiritual support. But he just says he doesn't over react, I just don't see it, that this is my problem not his. jerseycherries, BTW - one last thing...I don't want you to think I blame my husband for these issues. Sandra shares her story with Bipolar UK’s readers. Neither is agressive, high anger people. now i feel that i am not alone who is suffering with this. If I only had one child to contend with on my own. I will be honest and share with you that had I not had my kids (boy 13, twins 6), and was perhaps in a better financial position, I most likely would not still be here. Being involved in a bipolar marriage can be one of the toughest challenges for a loving relationship. i'm confused if i'm being manipulated again. These experiences run the gamut from wonderful and exciting to … I would love the opportunity to be more direct with you about. 10 Tips for Coping With a Bipolar Spouse. Do what it takes to finish and succeed in that goal for YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!! BUT the main thing for both of us what that he finally acknowledged that he suffered from the disorder and that a lot of the problems we had suffered in life with people, reactions to things, losing his temper etc. Worst level at the top making up about, Hi again loving frustrated wife. will bipolar medications reduce it . I would black out and rage out according to my husband. That’s what Mary J resorted to with her bipolar husband. Protect Yourself and Your Finances Against a Bipolar Spouse With the holidays behind us, you may face bills after manic spending. Hello BlueFlower thanks for your comments. I have been married for almost 10 years to a very gentle and loving man. But when his mood disorder is compounded with infidelity, the situation can reach a crisis level. Your future depends on you finishing!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It happens over and over and over on a regular basis. about 500 - 600 dollars or more a day.he has too many credit cards and he applies for more . I am here to support and love, absolutely, but not to have to be in this partnership alone so much of the time. My husband and I have been through a rollercoaster the last year well really the past 12 years since we first met when we were 15. i feel like all this debt is going to fall on me some day . Your third paragraph was so dense that it was hard for me to read. Thanks to everyone who joined us on the Bipolar and Pregnancy webinar on 12 November. and maybe its just easier for woman then it is for men to be that, Jerseycherries, yes, I have tried COUNTLESS times over the years to talk about. The mental illness your spouse suffers with is something that is happening to your entire family. I am the husband of my high school sweetheart. A Letter to My Husband, From a Woman With Bipolar Disorder To my selfless, patient, empathetic soul mate, I have so much I want to say to you, and then I have nothing at all to say to you. i dont know what to do . jersey cherries, btw, if you husband is willing, I would love to chat with him too. With a bipolar husband in the family, sometimes avoidance is easier than communicating. 90% of bp marriages fail, according to a well respected mag. It was a few days before Thanksgiving in 2007. oh and i do understand i can't get diagnosis here. But, dealing with this without him being responsible that it affects me to feels unfair. My husband is very busy with work right now and doesn’t have much time. [1] Except for one thing. Married 15 years to a wonderful man who is also bipolar which makes me feel alone a lot. I know this, because I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder last year. Both are medicated. There are groups for this at other sites: OR if the nastyness of blame, low frustrations tolerance...i.e. Over 250 self-help support groups and discussion forums for people who need emotional support, help with a mental health, relationship, parenting, or sexual problem, and mental illness support. It is too lonely, tiring of the same crap and painful on a regular basis. he talks and acts like he has supernatural powers . He is still Tom. They should be having sessions with you to help you to deal with all this. It is really encouraging to find that my own experience is not unique. Forums Index > Mental Health Support > Bipolar Living with the loneliness and isolation: Reply: Page 1 of ... She knows I see a psychiatrist but doesn’t know why. During my last high, I slept with a work colleague, which I regretted. There have been moments (okay few and far between) but moments where he will even catch himself in the middle, stop, and say - wow...I'm overreacting here. There seems to be, IMHO, a difference between the way men and women relate to their own health issues. We have been through some very rouugh months. I have manic highs and lows but do not notice when I’m high. We had been drinking though, so it made the blow a little softer. Noone else seemed to have the experiences I had and like you all here I have felt very lonely and also very anxious for a large proportion of my adult life because of this. We were also in a better place financially and yet my hubbie still felt very depressed. While I don't get called names, threatened, or deal with the high high's, or low lowsl, I do deal with the blaming, snarling, over reacting...etc. Hi, I posted here quite sometime ago when my husband was first diagnosed with Bipolar 1 and I was just struggling so much. This forum is a safe, anonymous environment for people with bipolar disorder to freely discuss their struggles and symptoms. My family thinks there's no point giving him any more chance. Coping with a Bipolar Husband Is a Family Affair. I find it frustrating and undermining too; In the throes of depression, the emotional upheaval makes me feel like a useless person, but I don't blame my husband for that. Lake Geneva woman shares secrets to living with bipolar disorder (Published Thursday, October 6, 2005 12:29:24 PM CDT) By Sue Yanny. He feels that he is justified in his feelings and actions and it is all my own fault. I have pointed out to my husband that he dosen't give me credit for anything and I feel like I have to do my remembering and his. I know my sister's husband was far higher on the spectrum scale than my husband and he was explosive with his temper (never physical though). dkramarczyk Junior Member. So we could be having a normal conversation and all of a sudden, he goes from being fine, to angry at me (not violent, yelling stuff - just frustrated, angry - like I did something wrong because I said something he didn't like or by a look on my face, or a roll of my eyes instead of arguing back and not engaging). i also read many books on marriage counseling and i try hard to maintain proper conversations but met with degrading responses. “I was fiery and ferocious, capable of lighting up a room or just as easily burning it down.” —Julie Kraft. At first it was fine, then when he tried to justify his actions because he said that the popsicle was fat free, I then calmly said that wasn't the point. living with a bipolar husband who doesn't take medication. Bipolar is treatable, medications and counseling help a great deal, but theres still things about bipolar disorder that I dont think Ill ever figure out." Refrain from living your life for your husband. I had tried to take my life by overdosing on my sleeping medication, and I was in a lot of pain. but maybe in 2 years , when i graduate i will be able to manage things little better . i think my husband has  bipolar disorder . Been there, done that, as my late husband was bipolar. I was just pointing out a contradiction. Especially if you are planning to stay in the marriage and be the main and sole support of your family. I pointed out if he wants to constantly complain to me about this issue (which he does), he is being hypocritical by breaking the rules here because it is easier than saying "no". With the bipolar spouse experiencing mood swings and the bipolar disorder symptoms of mania or depression at any given time, it can present a tough challenge for both the husband and wife in the relationship. Hi Victory 2007, I would ask an attorney about. If nothing else, it will help his psychologist to know how things are going from your perspective. he is getting verbally high now . He is still the loving husband and loving father that we know, just every once in a while his brain doesn t work right. then nothing worked out . Have you talked with his psychologist about it? 10 Tips for Coping With a Bipolar Spouse. if he is unable to keep a job then i would try for social security benifits. I see what I missed now, Loving, that you intimated too that being a man makes it harder for your husband to have the BP, that admitting to the illness is somehow emasculating. One other feeling you need to confront is “giving up” and the desire to leave the situation. He doesn't acknowledge what this must be like for me - to live with a BP at ALL. I am also (oh boy, am I gonna regret saying this...) a woman. I get in from work in the morning and make sure he takes his med and before i go to work I make syre he takes his med. This is my first visit to this site. For most of our time together (until 2 years ago) my husband had many periods of depression and mania and spent much of his life blaming other issues/people for the way he was feeling - some of the time it was 'my fault' as I was the closest to him and so by deduction his misery was due to me or his family, work, money problems! Bipolar disorder is a serious and extremely complex mental illness. they will then assess if he needs to see a psychiatrist or not. thanks everyone for all the advice. Being involved in a bipolar marriage can be one of the toughest challenges for a loving relationship. I can see how tired and frustrated you are but also confused over what to decide to do for the future. He is now a house husband … as i am bipolar i can only give my side, my husband did join but hasnt had time to post anything yet. Living with bipolar is possible but it does take lots and lots of work. I am a constant worrier, And have actually decided that I would name myself the Queen of Anxiety. That particular diagnosis can encompass different behavior patterns---"bipolar" is an umbrella diagnosis for several different types of the illness. Now, I am a rational person. With the bipolar spouse experiencing mood swings and the bipolar disorder symptoms of mania or depression at any given time, it can present a tough challenge for both the husband and wife in the relationship. There is only Bipolar. Living with a husband or wife who has bipolar disorder can be difficult. I was justified to point out what I did. Fallynangel79, I don't know that anyone will be able to say something to you that will transform your marriage, or be able to say "YES" stay, stay, stay. Nonetheless, I believe it's a point worth making. Hello, I'am married to a BP wife of 7 years. Anyway, a typical scenario that I am talking about is like the incident that happened last night, which has thus far turned into him saying a few accusitory hurtful statements at me, stomping away, avoiding me at all cost, hiding in his office for the night until bedtime, then sleeping half the night in our sons room before coming to bed to avoid me (my punishment I suppose). Online research about bipolar disorder and, especially searching for help in dealing with a bipolar husband, was how Mary found the book, “70 Signs of Depression: Recognize and Cope with Your Loved One’s Clinical or Manic Depression.” Try these tips for coping with the inevitable mood swings. It's a safe forum where you can create or participate in support groups and discussions about health topics that interest you. He has a strange sleep cycle where he goes to bed at about 5 or 6 in the morning, and sleeps for at least 6 hours. its lifelong. Im extreamly uneducated at this and my main question to you all is.....Is it possible for BP to "just come out of nowhere" as I feel that it has in my situation? In a recent NAMI meeting I attended, the parents of children with bipolar disorder shared their experiences with the sudden changes in behavior that make each day, week and month a challenge. The stigma of mental illness isn’t just connected with those who are ill, but also to those of us on this journey with them. Thanks for listening and I will appreciate any feedback or buddies that I find to be supportive with. My husband has a mental illness. Don't know if this is any help but hon you are not alone. Living with bipolar disorder gives you a very different perspective on the world around you. I have dealt with cheating, physical abuse, and money problems, not to mention all the little things in between. I have to live with my husband, who has bipolar, and it is quite a struggle most of the time. He has bipolar disorder. Living with Someone with Bipolar Disorder . but his "name" or whatever it is is bigjimbo73 so you can kinda watch for him. Purchases and junk began cluttering the house and yard. when a "normal" person wouldn't act like that. We had lots of positive reaction and questions but some of you told us you were sorry to have missed it so I’m writing this blog for you and for all the people who sent in questions which we didn’t get a chance to answer. 1 Persons diagnosed with bipolar disorder appear to … They can also refer your husband to a good psychiatrist if they feel he might be able to cope better with medications. Learning how to save a bipolar marriage is the same as learning to save a marriage with any other problem. He sounded so serious about regretting his actions, not the first time regretting, but it was much more serious yesterday, probably because we've been living apart for two weeks or so. Hi Oliveira, I value your comments; they're very straightforward. i love my husband . I have lived with him for 29 years and have 4 children. Living with bipolar spouse make me bipolar too? i am currently in the process of trying to get on social security/disabillity benifits. One way to help deal with your bipolar husband is to learn more about bipolar. I am just worn out by it all and recognizing that I don't want the kids to learn it is okay to speak to your spouse the way he does me when he is like this. Living with a husband or wife who has bipolar disorder can be difficult. To give you my story (in a nutshell) I, to have bipolar husband. Unfortunately this can make a bipolar marriage situation worse by triggering more dysfunctional behavior. but my husband is really good and understanding and doesnt normally react or push back so to speak. I drunkenly told a family member, and they made me tell my husband. I do agree with you Honey Bee that regardless of the levels of the BP, we could still be a support and help to each other. However, there may also be specific indicators that suggest taking another look at the relationship. That's all. He doesn't see what it is like, or how he WAY over reacts to the smallest of issues or even nothing at all. What I can share, and again, I have a milder case here than others, it still isn't an easy life. At the age of 36, after decades of living with erratic and self-destructive behavior that tortured her family, Julie Kraft finally received a diagnosis—bipolar II disorder. I didn't make him a BP. I can only share, on the few moments he has done this, it make a WORLD of difference to my ability to cope with it as his spouse. at first he was diagnosed of depression because he would sit on the couch and stare at walls or at the sky for hours , he does not work . Living with bipolar throws you many challenges. I somehow think he is in denial. And what you have to get is that none of that means I don't love my husband. As you read above, I struggle with the way I am spoken to and blamed for things. and if im denied i'm going to get a lawyer and talk to them and see if i have a shot or not. Living with bipolar may require and endless tweaking of medication to avoid twerking your mood swings in your partner’s face. But somehow deep inside me i feel if i persist in helping him get help, things will get better and our marriage will get stronger. That plays a part of this as well. If you are choosing to stay, it does not mean that you must martyr yourself to prove your love and loyalty by quiting to care for him. Dealing with a bipolar husband can be difficult, so give your time to adjust to the new challenge in your life. I agree with what you are saying, but is it wrong, once you have worked it out in your head to then go to the person you spilled it out on and acknowledge while it bothered you what was said, because of your BP you over reacted, took it out on them unfairly or took it to far and for that you are sorry? Being the spouse of a bipolar husband means a marriage with bipolar disorder. I was planning on posting my own thoughts about my stuggles and torment of living with my husband who has bipolar but your story reflects exactly what i would have said. My husband, who I am writing about today, doesn't acknowledge what this is like for me. Post Edited (Honey Bee) : 6/8/2007 2:33:10 AM (GMT-6), Post Edited (Honey Bee) : 6/8/2007 7:07:32 PM (GMT-6). but does anyone know if i am liable for his credit card debts. The stigma of mental illness isn’t just connected with those who are ill, but also to those of us on this journey with them. 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